Life Advice



Ask Amy: Distanced family visit causes heartache

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

I realize other people have lost a loved one, but how do I get past this loss?

– Grieving

Dear Grieving: I’m so sorry for what you (and so many others) are going through. The prospect of not being able to physically be with a loved one at the end of their life is absolutely heartbreaking. And to lose your twin – I can only imagine the impact of this loss.

The way to get through grief is – one day at a time. Fellowship and friendship help. Talking, crying, or sitting silently with people who know how to listen before leaping in will help.

In my family, we have a saying: “We abide.” I hope you find people who will abide with you. A good place to start is to contact your local hospice center. Ask about grief groups. Force yourself to attend a meeting (virtually, if necessary), and let other people guide you through.

Dear Amy: You advised “BFF in the West” to hire her best friend as her real estate agent!

Absolutely not. Never engage with friends in an enterprise where the stakes are so high.


– Been There

Dear Been There: The success of this would depend on all parties’ temperaments and professionalism.

I agree that there is risk involved.


(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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