Ask Amy: Not-quite-divorced couple enjoys ‘meeting up’
Dear Amy: I have been dating a man for over two years.
He is good with my kids and I appreciate that, given that they aren’t his children.
I am not divorced, and occasionally meet up (if you know what I mean) with my not-quite ex-husband, “Dan.”
It doesn't happen often, but 20 years of emotions between us emerge and I just don't know how to say no, I suppose.
Dan is also dating someone else and they have a one-year-old together.
It would be devastating to all parties if our involvement were discovered.
What would your best advice be so that I can move forward?
(My ex won't pay for divorce and I can't afford it.)
– Confused in OR
Dear Confused: It’s truly inspiring how you and your not-quite-ex manage to put yourselves first, in every single aspect of your romantic and parenting lives.
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