Ask Amy: This boomer is not OK with how she’s treated
He should accept full responsibility for what he did (not blame your menopause or health problems) and give you all the time you require to seek answers.
He must not expect quick forgiveness from you.
He must answer all of your questions truthfully.
Your eventual goal should be not just to survive this rough patch, but to let the trust-building period lead you toward growth.
This growth will be more apparent in hindsight, and I certainly hope you get there.
Dear Amy: “In a Quandary” described putting off his and his wife’s planned separation because of his daughter’s mental illness.
Her mental problems seemed to come up just as they were having trouble in the marriage. Seems too much of a coincidence to me.
– Happily Divorced
Dear Divorced: Tension between parents could be a triggering event, but if you are implying that this daughter was manipulating her parents, I didn’t get that impression from the letter.
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