Ask Amy: Perfectionist wants to sleep on it
He has a pattern of making plans to meet up — and then nothing.
Should I believe everything he tells me?
— Wondering
Dear Wondering: It is not your job to help this man “figure out his feelings.”
Based on your long and complicated history with him, you might choose to move forward in friendship — but nothing more. That’s up to you.
You should be willing to listen, but skeptical, about any statements this man makes. Pay closest attention to what he does.
His actions will speak volumes. Believe them.
Dear Amy: I was intrigued by the question sent to you by “Not Nameless Wife,” whose partner of 20 years never called her by her name (but always “Honey”).
I immediately wondered if this man has Anomic Aphasia, which is the inability to retrieve words, names and numbers. That would explain his behavior.
— Researcher
Dear Researcher: Most respondents suggested that this man should be tested for a variety of brain disorders. All definite possibilities.
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