Ask Amy: She’s not a Bridezilla, but might be a Friendzilla
My friend “Dan” is engaged to “Nan.” Dan has been continually asking to come over to my house for a barbecue and to hang out.
I’m not against the idea, but my roommate Jeff hits on women all the time, especially voluptuous ones. Beth is just his type.
Sure enough, if I do go through with the invite and have them over, Jeff will continuously hit on her until one of two things ends up happening: Nan will either fall for his charm and end up having an affair and/or sleeping with him, or she’ll be disgusted and mad at me for having them over.
Either way, I see NOTHING GOOD coming out of this on my end.
My question is for you is this: How can I tell Dan that hanging out here is not in his best interests?
Dear Bar-be-qued: You see this as a matter for the menfolk to handle, but, since “Jeff’s” behavior will likely affect “Nan” the most (not to mention poor “Beth”), why don’t you warn her? “My roommate Jeff is a total horndog. He WILL hit on you. If you don’t want to deal with that, maybe we should hang out at your house.”
Dear Amy: I always have to laugh when I hear someone complain that someone walked right by them without saying hello.
It works both ways; did you say hello?
– Puzzled Preschool Teacher
Dear Puzzled: My annual few weeks in New Orleans (where almost every stranger on the street greets with a hearty “hello”) has taught me the value of a joyful greeting.
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