Ask Amy: BFF friendship might have run its course

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on Apr 3, 2021

I so want to know why. Is she so self-centered that their vacation was more important than others’ health during this crazy time?

I'm brokenhearted. I wonder if other people have had similar experiences.

Any suggestions?

– Brokenhearted

Dear Brokenhearted: Many people have had experiences similar to yours over the past year.

Assuming (hoping) that the pandemic that has changed the world will be receding along its own chaotic course within the next few months, many of us will be spending that time trying to repair relationships that have been bent or broken because of differences with how we have perceived our risks.

On the face of it, your friend’s behavior is selfish and indefensible.

If her behavior last year was completely uncharacteristic, then you can attempt to move forward by reaching out again to say, “I’ve been thinking so much about you over these last months. I hope you are healthy and were able to get your vaccine. Given all this pandemic has stolen from so many of us, I hope you won’t let it take our friendship, too.”

If she denies or dismisses you, then you will have to face this extremely challenging truth: The pandemic may have actually revealed your friend’s deeper character.

Dear Amy: I enjoyed reading your “best of” columns from 10 years ago.

I keep wondering how things might have turned out for the people who wrote to you. Do you ever hear from them?

– Wondering

Dear Wondering: I wish people contacted me more often to let me know how things turned out for them. Consider this a shout-out to encourage anyone who has written to me to provide an update!

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