Ask Amy: Woman in startup should strike out
But people are more complicated than their assigned stereotype. The more mature path would be to watch, learn, and be open to lessons coming from unexpected places. Yes, even from that jerk who calls women “honey.”
Push back regarding any workplace behavior that affects your ability to do your job.
But to insist that these men must acknowledge their “white privilege” in order to meet your approval? All you would prove is that you are as arrogant as they are.
A true “ally” supports and amplifies the perspective and work of others, allowing them to use their own voice, and not speaking for them.
It is not the job of an ally to assume the position of lead patron and educator. Nor should you stay in an inferior position in order to prevent another cisgender white man from replacing you.
People without status or power have long been forced to tolerate nonsense from their co-workers in order to stay employed, or to advance in their fields.
Your own privilege means that you don’t have to do that.
Do you really want to dismantle the patriarchy? Strike out on your own. Look to the careers of Ava DuVernay and Shonda Rhimes for inspiration.
Dear Amy: I have a problem. My spouse and I have been together over 10 years. She was married before, but I was never married.
She makes a terrific salary, is a wonderful cook, loves my dogs, and she’s my best friend.
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