Ask Amy: Sibling relationship affected by loan request
I don’t know how to address this with him or my daughter, or if I should just ignore it. He supposedly never misses work and sees his own family.
Ideas?
— Frustrated
Dear Frustrated: Your daughter’s boyfriend might have serious social anxiety. This might explain some of the physical symptoms he reports having when he has missed an obligation. He might be an extreme introvert, and easily exhausted by being around other people.
Unfortunately for you, I think you should proceed by simply not expecting to see him. He has proven extremely unreliable (for whatever reason) when he is obligated to show up. And so, you should not rely on him, because doing so only leads to you being disappointed, again and again.
You could start by asking your daughter if she can explain some of his behavior. Surely this is hard on her, and you should make sure that she is OK and able to cope with her challenging partner.
Dear Amy: The letter from “Painful” about her cheating boyfriend sounded like an old story.
She found incriminating messages on his iPad.
He claimed he’d been hacked.
People need to understand something about hacking: Hackers don’t go after individuals – they attack massive companies, banks, governments, etc.
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