Ask Amy: Pandemic brings out the boring
One characteristic of GoFundMe (and other online giving platforms) is that — after you donate you can basically spread the word among your own “network” of in-person and virtual friends, thus using the power of social media to increase awareness (and multiply donations). For this reason, I think that spreading out your donations to the largest possible group might be the best idea.
I urge you to do everything possible to verify any online request for funds, if it comes from someone you don’t know. Unfortunately, tough times can sometimes inspire people to take advantage of the kindness of strangers.
Dear Amy: “Jaw Dropped in Denver” wrote to you about his wife’s terrible “office persona,” which he has noticed while both have been working from home.
Your advice about filming the wife’s rude behavior was spot on.
Being able to see and hear oneself from another person’s viewpoint is very instructive. However, the suggestion of her using a mirror to see herself was unfortunately useless.
In a mirror, we see what we want to see, and cannot hear ourselves.
One of my favorite sayings is: “The monster never sees a monster in the mirror.” — JMS
Dear JMS: Your aphorism comes as a relief to me, because when I look in the mirror, (unfortunately) I see it all!
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