Ask Amy: Son Zooms in with a zinger
She was devastated. She eventually got married and had two children. She got divorced from her husband because he was abusive. She's mentioned many times that maybe she could find Fred and call him.
Kiddingly, I said maybe I can find where he is by searching the internet. She asked me if I could. This was a couple months ago, and she hasn't asked me about it since.
However, I did find Fred. Unfortunately, he passed away a number of years ago.
My other sister said I should tell our older sister what I found. I don't agree. What's the point at this stage of her life? Let her think about him if it gives her happy thoughts. I think telling her would make her very sad, but should she know the truth?
-- Undecided Sister
Dear Undecided: I think that you should tell your sister the truth, supplying any information about "Fred" that you have. Of course, she will be sad! You should abide with her through her sadness, and if she wants to muse about "what might have been," then you should be with her through that, too.
Dear Amy: I mainly agreed with your advice to "Quarantine Nervous Nellie," until you suggested that she could report her partying neighbors to their town's tip line.
That tip line is for important matters, not for one neighbor to report on another!
-- Upset
Dear Upset: I don't like the idea of neighbors policing each other, but actually, I think this is exactly what these local COVID tip lines are for.
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