Ask Amy: Some people put Amy in a corner
Dear Devasted: The first thing you should do is to NOT get married. Your fiancee's behavior and your response are the very essence of dysfunction. If you are correct and she is stepping out on you, this is a huge problem. Your declaration that you feel like you "have to record everything ... just to learn the truth" is chilling. Her counter-accusation that you hit her is potentially very dangerous for you.
Because of an escalation in behavior I sense in both of you -- and the seemingly toxic connection between you two -- it would be wisest for you to separate. Seek the support of close friends, family, and a professional counselor to help you deal with this loss and change.
July 2015
Dear Amy: I recently ran into a famous local sports figure at my gym.
I didn't want to bother him, but much to my surprise he approached me. Turns out he knew me from my profession. He asked if I wanted to go out for coffee, and we exchanged numbers. A few days later we had coffee, and I thought it was pretty cool that he considered us friends.
Then everything changed. He told me he was interested in taking out a woman we ran into. She is my ex-girlfriend and we've remained good friends. He asked me a couple of times if I wouldn't mind if he asked her out. I reluctantly said no. I made plans with him, and then after talking to my ex I found out that he ditched our plans to go out with her.
The next day he called me and asked if I could help him move some furniture. I barely know the guy, next thing he will be asking me to drive him to the airport. Two friends of mine warned me not to trust this guy. What's the deal -- am I being too rash, or should I dump the guy as a friend?
-- Feeling Foolish
Dear Foolish: The good news here is that you won't have to dump the guy as a friend because he is not a friend. He's an opportunist who just keeps asking you for stuff.
I suspect that when you turn down his generous offer to let you move furniture for him, you'll likely never hear from him again.
January 2016
Dear Readers: The first question (from "Devastated,") is from the cult movie "The Room," which is widely beloved and possibly the worst movie ever made.
The question from "Feeling Foolish" is based on a famous "Seinfeld" plotline co-starring Yankee star Keith Hernandez.
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