Ask Amy: Son's new baby is a poorly kept secret
What say you?
-- Upset Dad
Dear Upset: Your concern is completely justified. "Tessa" is a teenager and is demonstrating the judgment typical of her age. But, while she might have thought that having more "help" would be good for everyone concerned, the more people around, the more divided attention toward the child. This presents risks for your son.
Tessa might not be mature enough to take on responsibility for another human. She may need a babysitter, herself.
If you plan to trust Tessa to continue occasionally watching her nephew, emphasize the absolute need for her to be completely honest with you. You should meet and approve of any other people spending time with your child.
Dear Amy: "Jealous? was worried about a newly single female work friend of her boyfriend's, who was driving four hours to their town for a personal visit.
You were wrong to justify her jealousy. Female jealousy has ruined many platonic friendships.
-- Upset
Dear Upset: I suggested that this person acknowledge her feelings, and also accept the female friend's invitation to get together in order to see if the feelings were justified. Jealousy is not confined to women.
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