Ask Amy: Tired senior needs a little self-care
Your husband seems to be adept at getting his needs met. You? Not so much.
"Self-care" has become a buzzy phrase. It can be challenging to understand what it really means to take care of yourself.
Many women who have given so much to spouses and children face the challenge of how to cope (and how others will cope) when they decide to stop giving it all away.
Your reserves are depleted, and you want (and need) to save something for yourself.
No, you are not being selfish. You should draw the line wherever you want to, and your husband, bless him, will have to adjust. You are not responsible for his feelings, or his behavior.
Carving out a few afternoons on your own at the library, the gym, or sitting by yourself quietly will revive you, be good for your health, and will likely be good for your relationship.
Dear Amy: My wife and I are in our late 70s and want to move into a senior housing facility.
We both are healthy enough to live into our 90s (both our mothers lived past 100), but we agree that she will probably live longer than I.
She wants to move into a senior facility we became acquainted with through older friends who lived (and died) there.
I don't want to move there, but she thinks that since she will live in the facility the longest, her choice gets priority.
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