Ask Amy: Bank worker is instructed to 'flirt'
Write down your account of exactly what happened, so you have a record, and take this to HR.
If you were terminated for bringing a very reasonable concern to the administration's attention, then you would surely have a case of wrongful termination that I assume any employment lawyer would be happy to take.
I understand that banking is a "go-go" industry. Your bank's "relationship rep" might skirt all sorts of boundaries in order to keep major clients happy, but if she can't manage this professional relationship without calling upon you to flirt with the client, then she isn't very good at her job.
She could very easily claim that this was a joke. The word "flirt" can have nonsexual connotations. Regardless of her intent, she should not make comments like this, or attempt to use you in this way.
You brought this big client to the bank, and your doing so means that you are valuable to the bank. Don't underestimate your own value, both as an employee and as a person.
Dear Amy: My sister committed suicide after a complicated life, contentious divorce and child custody battle.
Her horrible ex-husband has always blamed me for her suicide.
I tried to help her and was dedicated to her (not him), while living abroad.
Their daughter, 21, who I am in touch with and see when I am in the U.S., is getting married, but she did not tell me, which is disappointing.
Her dad forbade her from inviting me. She accidentally revealed it on Facebook.
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