Ask Amy: Lovelorn spouse wants to tidy up behind him
You should tell him that you've heard his point of view, but that while you proudly shared his surname while he was a child, you are now (also proudly) reverting to your own. None of this changes who you are -- only what you are called.
Dear Amy: I understand the frustration of "Tired and Frustrated," who has a pronounced limp, but doesn't want to be "helped" while out and about.
I am one of the "pushy" people who offers help. To everyone.
I have been berated by people who don't want help, and I have also been thanked with a smile.
I will continue to do what I feel is right, and you are welcome to call me anything you like.
-- Helper
Dear Helper: Well, there you go.
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