Ask Amy: Man needs friendship, and a dose of Paul Rudd
Dear Love In-Law: The first thing I can do is to validate your feelings.
For instance, those pesky feelings of guilt.
Well, you feel guilty because you ARE guilty.
You seem to be dating -- or at least trying to date -- your wife's sister.
So -- to recap -- you are contemplating, planning, hankering, intending -- to cheat on your wife. With her sister.
This will not end well.
Realistically, if you and your wife's sister do manage to leave your marriages and land together, you will have had a hand in imploding two marriages (hers and yours), as well as creating the most awkward family holidays ever.
Presumably, your sister-in-law's relationship with your wife (and possibly other family members) will be damaged, possibly irreparably.
Furthermore, I don't imagine this family will have a very high opinion of you.
This is supremely selfish of both of you. It's just wrong.
Dear Amy: "Loving Husband" reported that his wife had cancer, but she wanted to keep it a secret from everyone. I felt so sorry for him -- he needs support as much as she does.
-- Been There
Dear Been There: I agree. The American Cancer Society offers caregiving support and advice on their website: cancer.org.
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