Family should reunite in small stages
Any advice?
-- Confused and Angry
Dear Confused: Why are YOU angry? Are you angry because your sibling is bellyaching? If so, get over it.
The rules regarding this cleanup were clear and easy to understand.
This is a classic snooze equals lose situation. Your sibling didn't hop up to help, and so that sibling hasn't had first pick.
If that sibling wants to negotiate with other family members regarding specific items they wanted to keep, they could offer to barter, trade, or buy them.
Dear Amy: The letter from "A from Minnesota" hit me in the gut. Like "A," I also had lots of dreams about my mother after she died. I didn't know what to make of them, and I found them to be very upsetting. I would wake up in tears.
Eventually, the dreams seemed to change, and I did what you advised -- I let the dreams in. I saw this as my mother trying to help me to grieve.
-- Feeling Better
Dear Better: I had a similar experience to yours, which I used to answer "A's" question.
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