'Out' child presents sleepover challenge
You seem like a thoughtful and accepting parent.
You are going to have to have "the talk" with your daughter. Do your best to relate to her regarding hormones, sexual activity, and emotions. Does she consider her gay friend to be her girlfriend? If so, tell her you understand the feelings but wow -- she's too young to date, don't you think?
Depending on her response, you may choose to retract your "out-means-out" metric about sleepovers.
Your whole family should read: "Queer, 2nd Edition: The Ultimate LGBTQ Guide for Teens," by Kathy Belge and Marke Bieschke (2019, Zest Books). The book comprises a series of letters from adults to their younger selves.
Dear Amy: I have been dating a guy for a few weeks. We've been on at least 10 dates, but he won't have sex with me.
We have been sexual in other ways, but whenever the topic gets brought up, he makes an excuse or defers the conversation.
What should I do? I think intimacy is important.
-- Worried
Dear Worried: There's intimacy and there's intimacy. Talking honestly about a challenging topic is the most intimate thing two people can do.
Your friend may have religious or ethical issues that interfere with his willingness to have sex with you right now.
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