Incoming college student has roomie worries
I don't think you should attempt to intervene in advance, because you don't actually know how this is going to work out for any of you.
The first days of college are a whirlwind, as everybody flaps and flounders, trying to find their own rhythm and -- if they're lucky -- their college tribe.
You are kind and thoughtful to be concerned about this dynamic, and yes, once on campus you should definitely intervene or attempt to mediate as soon as you detect boorish behavior, bullying, or overt exclusion toward "L."
Your university has a dean of housing, as well as resident advisers on each floor. They are all there to try to make sure each student gets what they need. Do not hesitate to take this issue to these adults immediately if there is a problem.
You and "L" might be best suited to be roommates, while K might be happiest housing with whatever fraternity he can convince to let him join. He might not be mature enough to co-house with either of you.
Dear Amy: I am 5-foot, 1-inches tall, but due to bone degeneration I am now 4-foot, 11 inches. I have accepted my height, but SO many people think it is funny, and I am the butt of their jokes.
People love to grab a child and have him/her stand next to me to show them that the child is taller than I am.
The most painful event happened last Christmas Eve at church when we were all together as a family.
Early in the service the pastor asks everyone to stand (if they are able) and wish each other peace.
A man in front of us turned around, called me by name, and said, "Stand up! Oh, you ARE standing up!" Last Christmas was the last holiday we shared with our son, who died last year. I keep thinking about this insult (I hear it, or comments like it) all the time, and it always hurts.
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