Sister dynamic could be about birth order
Am I being too morally rigid? Am I just acting jealous? Or do I need to find someone else who is on the same page as me?
-- Social Media Trouble
Dear Trouble: Facebook seems tailor-made for looking up exes. Doesn't everyone do this?
Context is important. Is your wife doing some benign lurking and gloating? Or is she connecting and communicating with her exes? There is a big difference.
I agree that, "I will not stop. I would not cheat" is not a great response. Her choice to bring up cheating is pretty incendiary. But then again, so is your knee-jerk response to maybe find another partner.
You two are obviously at a relationship impasse. I suspect that this social media dustup is more a symptom than a cause. I hope you can work things out.
Dear Amy: "Struggling" said she didn't want to attend a wedding with her right-wing relatives.
Why do you always insist that politically conservative people are "boorish"? I'm so tired of this consistent bias in your column.
-- Tired
Dear Tired: I've encountered many left-leaning people who are closed-minded, reactionary and "boorish," and have tackled questions regarding same in my column.
In this case, I described the behavior as "boorish" because "Struggling" referred to this relative as an "insulting bully."
(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)
