Memoirist might be violating family's privacy
Stop telling your mother how to feel or how to interpret what you've done, but accept that she is upset. Instead of sharing full text on your group chat, you should publish on a blogging platform (I use Tumblr), and share a link: "Here's my latest installment. If you're interested in reading, click here."
Dear Amy: Well, I met a great gal. We seem really good together most of the time, but here's the rub: She has a dog.
"Buster" is a nice dog, but is not very well-trained.
The big problem occurs at bedtime. Buster wants to share our bed, and is uncontrollably insistent about it, whining and disturbing us throughout the night until at some point my gal gives up, and then Buster is in bed with us and I must deal with it, or go sleep elsewhere.
Apparently, Buster gets to sleep with her at home, so hey, why not at my place? This ruins intimacy, and it is hard to sleep.
She apologizes, but is doing nothing to train this dog to accept the floor/dog bed.
Am I out of line to want our bed to be dog-free?
-- Doggone it!
Dear Doggone: You could provide some "alpha" style leadership -- or at the very least, be less peeved and passive -- if you found a good dog trainer who could work with the three of you (you, she, and "Buster").
Working with Buster together -- as a couple -- would put you on the same page, and provide you both with the same tools and techniques to communicate with and retrain the dog.
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