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Amy, what do I do then? It is set up as a loving gesture for a "legacy" piece of jewelry. How would you say, "No thank you; I do not like this item you love so much and want to honor me with"?

My "out" is that both pieces are very fancy, and I do not dress that way. But I am getting married soon and the gift from my sister could be worn.

Oh, the dilemma!

-- Gifted

Dear Gifted: If you have accepted these pieces, along with the imposed limitations placed upon them, then I guess they will sit in a box until you are able to pass them along to someone else. You should be honest when expressing your gratitude: "It is so kind of you to give this to me, but ... you know me, I don't wear things that are so fancy. Are you sure you want me to have it?"

You should not feel obligated to wear something you don't like, but maybe there is a way to wear both pieces in a new way (perhaps wrapped around your wrist) for your wedding.

Dear Amy: "Worried Mother" wrote about her daughter, a med student, who was "forcibly groped" by a male fourth-year med student. The victim did not want to report it. Sexual harassment in medicine is sadly mainstream. The National Academies of Science estimates 50 percent of female physicians experience this during their training. This should be reported to the Title IX office, and the dean.

The culture won't change without reporting.

-- Fellow Female Physician

Dear Physician: It is tricky to essentially force a victim to report, but I agree that the risks here are extreme, and she should be supported for reporting.

(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)