Couple saw something, but won't say something
Should I leave it alone? How do I know if it was anything that warranted being reported or if it was just some type of fetish thing?
-- Upset SIL
Dear Upset: "Some type of fetish thing" is a crime if it involves possessing and/or trading nude photos of young girls.
You and your husband don't actually seem to doubt what you saw. You both saw the same thing and you were both disturbed by it. You only seem to wonder what you should have done about it.
Yes, you should have reacted -- either in the moment, or certainly after.
It is completely understandable, when things happen suddenly or fleetingly, to not know what to do. It is also normal when faced with uncertainty to let your discomfort make you inert.
But it's been a year now. You are parents. Your gut tells you that something is not right. It is your duty to act, and it is better to be wrong and embarrassed than to ignore your own knowledge and instincts.
You and your husband should talk to his brother, together. If your husband refuses, you should do this on your own. Tell him what you saw. If he denies what you saw, you will have to decide what to do next. If he offers a preposterous -- or benign -- explanation, don't believe it. There is no innocent reason for a grown man to possess nude photos of young girls.
You should never ever share any photos of your own (naked) child on any social media site -- and be aware of any photos that may automatically be uploaded to the cloud. Be extremely cautious regarding your baby, and make sure that your child's grandparents are, too.
Dear Amy: When asked if you like the new dish that someone has served you, how can you say "no," politely?
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