Beneficiary wants to avoid 'Lifetime' role
The only thing that has ever worked is complete transparency. Most people have been there. And most people are understanding and kind when others are honest.
Your boss and co-workers are treating you like an equal partner, but you aren't. Tell your boss, " This is awkward for me, but I can't afford to chip in for parties. Can I contribute in other ways? I'd be happy to bring in baked goods, or help to set up and clean up afterward."
Dear Amy: I was shocked to read your response to " Delicate," who was worried about how to get rid of some old pornographic magazines. You suggested: " Stash them in front of your neighbor's house!"
Amy, c'mon man, that's just downright WRONG! That's a very unneighborly thing to do.
A better suggestion is to wrap them up as you stated, and then take them behind the market and dump them in a public trash site. Sheesh. What you advised was terrible, mean and wrong.
-- Disgusted
Dear Disgusted: When I prefaced my statement by suggesting " a daring pre-dawn raid," I assumed readers would understand that I was joking. (I would not assume that a market's recycling dumpster is " public," by the way.)
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(You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: askamy@amydickinson.com. Readers may send postal mail to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or " like" her on Facebook.)
