Possible stalking victim fears she may deserve it
Women's restrooms always have separate stalls. The public area is just used for handwashing, hair brushing and Spanx adjusting. There is nothing especially private that a gentleman would have trouble unseeing.
If a male voice called in: "Ladies, I'd like to bring my mother in to use the toilet -- can we enter?" you would be giving the women in the restroom a heads up. You would also most likely encounter at least one woman who would be very happy to help her. Always use the stall provided for disabled people if possible -- it is much roomier.
I have assisted elderly women many times in public restrooms. My own experience caring for older family members has made me eager to try to help in a situation that can be challenging or embarrassing -- but it shouldn't be.
After all, your kupuna ("elder") needing to use a public restroom means that she is out and about, squired by a loving and responsible relative. This is GREAT.
Dear Amy: The letter from "Whipping Boi" raised a number of concerns for me. As I read this account of a very controlling girlfriend, I was skeptical that you would call it what it was: abuse.
Imagine my surprise when you did just that. Thank you.
-- Been There
Dear Been There: I hope this man takes my advice -- to leave.
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