Possible stalking victim fears she may deserve it
You should make sure that people at your new workplace know about this. Provide the license number, make, model and color of the vehicle. Their awareness will help you to feel (and be) more secure. You do not need to disclose your previous and long-ago involvement with him, nor should you ever assume any responsibility for his actions.
Make a detailed and accurate log of any time you see his car outside your house or workplace. Seek an order of protection, which would serve to notify this man that he must keep his distance. Call the police and ask to make out a report.
Do not directly confront this person, and don't communicate with him.
Aloha Amy: If a family member is a male caregiver for our mother, which public restroom does he need to take her to? Our mother is legally blind and needs some assistance.
We just don't want to have any problems due to the limited amount of family restrooms available.
Thank you in advance for putting our minds to rest.
We are caring for our "kupunas" in Hawaii.
-- K
Aloha K: There is no hard-and-fast rule regarding this, and so I'll rely on my own experience as a frequent user of public women's restrooms (and an occasional user of men's -- but that's another story for another day).
Men's restrooms can be disorienting for women, and I assume your mother would rather not use one. So go with her preference.
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