Mother's legacy is estrangement, and some cash
Otherwise, my strong suggestion is that you should find a worthy local cause (or causes) you can support. Bequeathing money to support organizations reflecting your own values might help to resolve your distress.
I also notice a pattern of people leaving you for no known reason. You should take a solid and honest look at your own behavior. You should admit and accept responsibility for any mistakes you have made along the way. You may never reconcile with your children (you don't seem to want to), but you should definitely reconcile with yourself.
Dear Amy: I am a 34-year-old man. I have been dating my 31-year-old girlfriend on and off for 10 years. We have been seriously committed for the past four years.
I am frequently asked, "Why haven't you asked her to marry you yet?!"
She is a recovering alcoholic.
Three years ago, she was fired from her job for drinking and was often caught hiding it and lying about how much she drank.
After a two-week stint with inpatient rehab, 12-step meetings and counseling, we are in a much healthier and happier place.
Life is not without its struggles and setbacks.
All things considered, I know this is the person I love and want to be with. I'm just not comfortable yet with getting married after the struggles that we have been through.
The house and bills are in my name, so I'm not concerned from a financial standpoint.
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