Husband's hot cars don't use any gas
Lying about these huge purchases also seems somewhat irrational (as well as hostile).
Given that your husband makes these purchases, and somehow manages to hide them, (perhaps by renting storage units) and never use them, yes -- I'd say that he has a very real problem, which he seems to cycle in and out of.
Now what? Let's say that his bipolar disorder is driving this behavior. Will he seek treatment? A new Camaro costs over $60,000. Committing to treatment would be a much better investment.
It is no doubt frustrating for you to cope with this. Urge your husband to seek a diagnosis and treatment, and to stick with the treatment.
After that, turn your attention away from shaming and blaming (it doesn't change anything), and toward protecting your own health and financial security.
You should see a lawyer and financial planner to learn about strategies to perhaps build a partial financial firewall between you and your husband. Educate yourself about your financial rights and responsibilities. He may never seek treatment. He may never change. You should concentrate on developing effective coping skills in order to minimize the negative consequences of his behavior on you.
Dear Amy: All my life I have been told that if someone hurt me, or did something terrible to me, that I was to get over it, to get a life and to forgive and forget.
But at the same time, I have heard that obtaining or getting closure was very important in the healing process.
How can one get closure when there is no means for closure? And how can one heal without some closure?
-- Open Wounds
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