Spouse's ethical choice affects a long friendship
She didn't give me any type of answer, but she didn't leave, either. In fact, after I made my admission, we even hung out for a while -- as we've done for the past two years.
Does that mean she may have feelings for me as well?
-- Chef
Dear Chef: My official "Ask Amy" Magic 8 Ball declares: "It is definitely possible."
You have indicated your feelings for this person twice, and so now it is time for you to be cool. Back off a little bit while she figures out how she feels and what she might want to do about it.
She will telegraph any romantic interest in you by lingering in your presence, initiating small talk and asking if you want to hang out. She will also randomly touch your arm, for no apparent reason.
If you don't come on too strong, you will create the space for her to act according to her own desires. And then you'll know.
Dear Amy: I wish you had suggested that "Trying to do the Right Thing" should see a lawyer with her serious inheritance question. Why don't you send readers to true experts?!
-- Upset
Dear Upset: This was the final phrase in my answer: "...you should consult with a professional estate planner to determine what is legal, fair, allowable and taxable."
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