Boyfriend disappears into dark web
He says he can see a committed relationship with me in the future, but has a few things to sort out before doing so.
I am uneasy. Is this a sign that he must feel something is missing in our relationship?
Is this a red flag?
-- Worried
Dear Worried: Your boyfriend is telling you what he wants. He is not promising exclusivity, and if you continue to date him expecting that he will eventually settle in and choose you, you will probably be disappointed. At four months in, if he was as into you as you are to him, and if he felt ready and able to commit to exclusivity, he would be locking it down.
You don't mention what "things" he has to sort out. It's possible that the only things he needs to sort out are other women. And there's nothing wrong with that, as long as he is honest with you (and them).
If you two are sexually active, make sure you take precautions to guard against STDs and pregnancy.
Dear Amy: "No Solution" was complaining about her sister, who was facing sudden financial hardship and asking family members to pitch in for her daughter's dance classes.
Thank you for being so compassionate and keeping your answer child-focused. This might be the girl's only extracurricular experience during a tough time.
-- A Fan
Dear Fan: Many parents would rather skip a meal than see their kids go without a joyful experience; in my mind, that's how it is supposed to be.
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