Boyfriend disappears into dark web
-- Ms. Internet Troll
Dear Ms. Troll: Your boyfriend's hate speech is on him. You do you.
I can't quite imagine how your relationship with this guy can be "otherwise good" when he is admitting to being anti-Semitic, admires someone you believe is a Nazi and has already been banned by a famously loose social media site (a user has to dive into seriously threatening territory to get noticed and banned from Twitter).
I don't believe that partners should police one another and "allow" or prohibit any particular behavior or expression. But what does this guy have to do before you will stand up, exercise your own rights, and say, "I don't like the man you've become. I'm out of here?"
At some point, ignoring hate, turning a deaf ear or focusing only on the wedge of good stuff that affects you personally makes you part of the problem. You're at that point.
Here's a quote attributed to Edmund Burke: "A very great part of the mischiefs that vex the world arises from words."
Edmund Burke is also thought to have coined this famous phrase: "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
I'm not saying that your guy is evil. But if you are "good," then you should stand for something. So stand, already!
Dear Amy: I have been seeing someone for four months. I feel pretty emotionally connected to him.
Recently when I raised the idea of exclusivity, he shared with me he has been active on dating apps. He said that while he has not slept with anyone else, he has gone on a few dates.
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