Mother's suicide affects generations of family
-- Wondering
Dear Wondering: Yes, your anger is justified. However, your sister also has a right to tell your mother's story, because it is part of her story, too.
Of course, it would have been best for you if she had said, "Let me talk to your mom about this in the morning and then we'll talk to you together."
Because she doesn't have children, she might lack insight regarding the parental right to make certain choices regarding information they want their children to have.
And so ... this happened. It happened (I'm estimating) well over 20 years ago.
Yes, you've held onto this for a long time. Your burden has been very heavy. And now you should find a way to liberate yourself, by finding a way to let it go.
Dear Amy: My mother, 88, is living on her own in the house I grew up in, a two-hour drive away from me. She refuses to move to an assisted-living place either near me (and two of my siblings), or near her home.
Her judgment is getting worse, but she has patched things together.
She has a couple of freelancers helping her on a casual basis with errands and home maintenance.
None of us have met these "freelancers." My mother says she has lent them money, but she thinks she's on top of it, though I doubt she is.
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