Wife learns she isn't named as husband's beneficiary
What bothers me the most is that he acts like he doesn't care!
I want to leave him, but I don't want to make such a big change at this age.
I don't look at my husband the same way anymore. I can't think clearly about this. Any suggestions?
-- Upset
Dear Upset: Your husband might have agreed to this beneficiary arrangement as part of his divorce settlement with his former wife. You should confirm whatever legal obligation he has made to her.
Because of your ages, you two should see a lawyer and/or accountant with expertise in estate planning. You should have full knowledge of all of your mutual assets.
I am not a lawyer, but I simply do not believe that your husband cannot change beneficiaries. With my own retirement account and company pension, it is very easy to do. And as your husband's legal spouse, you might automatically be considered his beneficiary. You need to find out.
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My dear, very close friend, "Sandra," hosts a dozen or so family and friends for Thanksgiving dinner each year.
We have an adult daughter at home who is bedridden with a severe, debilitating chronic illness that makes her very fragile. My husband and I care for her, with help from hired caregivers.
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