Husband should not fear being the Grinch
I responded, "Yes, and you?" He replied back "Good."
After that I ended the conversation.
I do not understand his reaction to me. I don't know what is going on! How should I behave next?
I miss him and love him dearly. I can't tell if he is into me and deserves a second chance. What do you think?
-- Wondering
Dear Wondering: It's time to graduate from middle school. It's time to take yourself more seriously, and to value yourself so much that a guy politely asking how you are isn't an invitation back into a relationship that wasn't good for you in the first place. "Life's good?" is just something people say. It's a polite placeholder.
It sounds as if this man wasn't a good boyfriend for you, but he might have the makings of being an almost-decent friend. He's a guy you can ping for work questions, and who will try to be helpful.
Someone who is truly into you will offer you a better quality of attention. I hope you feel you deserve it.
Dear Amy: Thank you for your calm and compassionate response to "Worried," the aunt (or uncle) who wondered how to spend time with their teenage nephew, who was in legal trouble for drug possession.
Oh, I was that kid. I'm no longer that kid. But I'm so grateful for family members who hung in there with me.
-- Changed
Dear Changed: Many of us were either that kid, or had that kid in our family. Patience is called for.
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