New wife worries about hubby's ex connection
Dear Amy: My husband had a long first marriage. He got divorced two years ago, and we started dating shortly after.
We have been married for over a year now, and we have a newborn daughter.
The problem is that my husband talks to and communicates all the time with his ex!
I confronted him about this and told him I was not confident about his choice to do that.
He said that she was a very important part of his life and that I need to wise up.
He said he has a lot of memories with her, and honestly, I understand that part, but it has been almost two years since we got married. I don't think this should continue. What should I do?
-- Upset Wife
Dear Upset: Even if your concerns were NOT valid (and I think they are), it is disrespectful for your husband to respond to your honesty by telling you to "wise up."
You are wise enough to see his relationship with his ex-wife as an encroachment on your marriage. Your husband simply does not get to tell you what to think or how to feel.
Nor can you force him to exit from a relationship with his ex that he seems determined to continue.
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