Man now wants to apologize for his sexual assault
Dear Too Soon?: I applaud your determination to advance this relationship slowly and carefully. Your continued sobriety must be your priority. No matter how healthy your relationship is with your guy, life with four children these ages will provide a lot of extra stress for both of you.
Before marriage, it is vital for you two to discuss and compare your parenting styles and to talk about how you plan to tackle your various challenges. Couples therapy before engagement and marriage will help both of you to face your future and continue to work your steps through sobriety. Understand that your sobriety is a tender thing, and never ever take it for granted.
If you commit to facing your future with intention and purpose, then your timeline sounds just about right.
I'm very happy for you and your children. Your happiness and ongoing stability will change their lives forever.
Dear Amy: I'm responding to the question from "The Invisible Wife," whose husband spent all of his home-time on his phone.
I'm a psychotherapist and I would highly suggest this husband go for addiction therapy.
If he won't go, then his wife must look for a support group for herself. Tech addiction is no joke.
-- Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: "The Invisible Wife's" first task is to get her husband's attention. My suggestion focused on ways to do that.
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