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Engagement can happen without 'nagging'

By Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: While I think your answer to "Frugal Older Sister" was on the right track, the unspoken reason for this difference in lifestyles between these sisters is that each is living her own values.

Even if the older sister had more financial resources, she would probably make decisions that were not like her younger sister's.

Younger Sister seems to be fine living without a clothes dryer. It's her own home. She didn't ask her sister for a dryer. This is Older Sister applying her own values to her sister's life.

I have a wonderful older sister; we're both in our 60s. She has accumulated many more resources than I have. She occasionally makes financial gestures that I appreciate. Sometimes I take her up on them, sometimes I don't. What I love about her is that through it all, she honors my decisions and values when I am applying them to my own life.

-- Grateful

 

Dear Grateful: Great and beautiful point.

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