Girl pressed for nude photo should wear T-shirt, instead
Your BF's parents get mad at him, and inspect his phone. There you are.
Your BF loses or leaves his phone somewhere. You end up wherever that phone is -- and/or in the "cloud."
Your "totally trustworthy" BF is bragging about what a babe you are, and hands his phone (or texts a photo) to a totally trustworthy friend of his. Boom -- there you are, on Twitter.
Your BF gets mad at you, or you two break up. This nude photo is now leverage that he (or someone else) can use against you.
Think it through. If you and your guy are in a healthy relationship, then why does he need (or even want) a nude photo of you? He's got the real thing! Is your boyfriend headed to war and he needs this to comfort him at the Western Front? No, dude's got first period Trig class.
Guys ask for these photos because it is a rite of passage for them. It is social currency for them. Guys who were trading Pokemon cards in elementary school now collect these. It does nothing but potentially damage you. Furthermore, if your guy is pressuring you to do this, it is a red flag.
Has he implied that you are a "prude" if you don't do this? If so, he is gaming you. Stand up for yourself. Pay at least as much attention to your own desires as to his.
You own your body and access to your body. You own your sexuality. If maintaining control over who gets to see your naked body makes you a prude, then let's get some "Proud 2B Prude" T-shirts made -- and own that, too.
Dear Amy: What do you make of a co-worker (and casual friend) who is forever finding something requiring her assistance -- with my outfit, face or hair?
I wouldn't mind the occasional help with tucking in a tag on my blouse, but it makes me feel weird that she's always finding something to pick off my clothing or skin, such as a loose eyelash on my cheek, or piece of lint or thread on my hair or clothes.
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