Girl pressed for nude photo should wear T-shirt, instead
I don't know what bothers me more, the actual touching or the fact that she's scrutinizing me so closely that she even notices these things.
She would be terribly hurt if I told her it bothers me, so that is out of the question.
I just want to understand what it signifies. Is it a sign of ADD, a power play or something else?
-- Creeped out in the Midwest
Dear Creeped Out: Your friend might have a tic that causes her to do this unconsciously. It could also be a bid for a certain type of friendship intimacy, or it might just be a boundary-crossing habit. Some people are just ... touchy.
What concerns me is your lack of will regarding a very simple request not to be touched. What would it take for you to stand up for yourself? You could very easily say, "I'm a little uncomfortable being touched; if something is amiss, let me know and I'll take care of it."
Dear Amy: The letter from "Distant and Desperate" made me see red. Her mother had advanced cancer and Distant was twiddling her thumbs overseas, judging her mother's health-care choices from her remote perch.
Thank you for urging her to get on a plane.
-- Mellow
Dear Mellow: Yes. Tick tock.
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