Husband rejects son and now wants him to leave
Given his educational delay, it does seem necessary for your son to live at home while he gets his GED, continues to mature and develops some reasonable and reachable goals of his own.
Your local vocational school or department of social services might point you toward programs that would provide transportation and some on-the-job learning.
Of course, your home is supposed to be a "life skills facility," but if there is an environment (outside your own home) that will offer shelter, TLC, counseling, peer support, life skills and job training, then yes -- I think you should jump on it. I assume that your son would grow and possibly thrive away from the oppressive atmosphere of your home. (If I were you, I'd move there, too.)
Dear Amy: I've been married for 28 years and have experienced neglect, drunkenness, narcissism, neediness and insecurity from my husband. I quit drinking a year ago and have become active in AA and I go to an Al-Anon meeting.
I've also experienced the loss of my father this year. My mother is in a care center with dementia.
When I'm home, I don't want to talk with him or be around him. We aren't intimate, which burns him, but I can't even think about it when I don't trust him or really even like him.
I decided I'd rather go without sex the rest of my life than have to do it when I don't want to. (I used to do it to keep the peace.)
He quit drinking two months ago and is going to church, so now he thinks I should forgive and forget. He also started counseling. I'm a long way from forgetting, but I'm working on forgiving.
How do you get trust and love back? I'd rather separate at this point.
-- Want to be Alone
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