Family wonders what to do with racist family photo
Dear Amy: I met a girl at community college. We had two classes together and started talking. We exchanged phone numbers. We would talk, and at times I would help her with her homework.
I hinted that I liked her. I thought she was showing the same thing.
She was finishing her studies, and I was transferring to a four-year school. When the semester was over I tried asking her out three times.
The first time she told me she was visiting family during the holidays, the next two times she told me that she had to work.
Our text exchanges got to the point where she would send me "conversation ending" texts. I would text her, "How are you today?" and her response would be, "Good" -- pretty much ending the conversation.
At this point I felt that she only used me to help her finish her classes. I let it go, but a month later when I started my university courses, I get a text from her out of the blue, saying things like I was smart and so on.
I imagine that she was drunk texting. So I sent her a one-word response.
It's been about two weeks since I texted her and I don't know if I should try again.
-- Confused
Dear Confused: It's possible that she was using you for homework help, but you can't really know. It sounds to me like your former classmate liked studying and spending time with you, but tried to let you down easy, and then got back in touch to see if you were able to be friends. Now you are blowing her off.
It seems like neither of you are getting what you want out of this relationship; now that you are at a full-time school, you have opportunities to meet new friends and find other potential dates. This time, leave the hinting at home: if you like someone, tell them. Then there's a possibility of avoiding the drama and actually getting to go out with a person you like.
Dear Amy: "Worried Mom in California" was freaking out because she found a vaping unit in her daughter's purse. Thank you for discussing the unknown health risks of vaping.
-- Worried Parent
Dear Worried: Vaping has become an increasing challenge in high schools. Parents should be aware of this, but no, I don't think they should freak out.
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