Wedding season provides familiar dilemmas
-- Family Matters
Dear Family Matters: Well, it's not really your wedding. It is your and your fiance's wedding. If he has only one rude and obnoxious member in his large and otherwise wonderful family, then I'd say you're both pretty lucky -- and definitely beating the national average.
Ignore her. Minimize any contact with her (which can be easy to do at your large wedding). Families come in many hues and combinations of good and obnoxious. For better (and perhaps worse), this person will be part of yours. Make a determination to enjoy your day. And then do that.
Dear Amy: I'm a 28-year-old woman. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years.
Amy, I thought for sure that I would be the first sibling in my family to get married, but my younger brother dated his girlfriend for less than three years, got married and now he and his wife are expecting their first baby! My boyfriend and I have talked about getting married for a long time, but nothing happens! I don't want a huge wedding. I just want to go to the courthouse. He says he is also happy with the courthouse idea.
I'm trying to work with him to get our future started, but I keep hitting a wall. I'm not even engaged! I have shown him several rings that I like. I even suggested that we skip the ring and go straight down the aisle.
Am I supposed to propose to myself?
He keeps saying it is about money, but I have done my research and it doesn't cost that much. I have shown him prices.
He keeps saying we will get married "one day." Meanwhile, everyone around me is getting engaged.
Should I stop pushing? Should I start leaving bigger and bigger hints?
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