Was grandparents' choice to have girls' hair cut off racist?
However, he has developed many facial tics lately -- he is constantly pulling his ear, touching his nose or rubbing his lips.
It's nonstop and incredibly annoying. I have a hard time even looking at him, which has (understandably) created all sorts of problems.
I have mentioned it to him multiple times and he gets very defensive and oftentimes denies he does it. I'm sure its involuntary, and it seems to get worse during times of stress. Any suggestions?
-- Trying to Overlook It
Dear Trying: Rather than try to overlook this, you should urge your husband to see his physician. This rather sudden and marked change in his physical behavior could be a sign that there is an underlying medical cause that should be addressed. Because this seems to come on during times of stress, he may be offered simple strategies to control his stress level, and these various tics would subside, but this could also indicate something more serious.
I would hesitate to take an amateur stab at diagnosing him, which is why he should see his doctor right away.
Dear Amy: The question from "Tired Mom" took me back. Tired Mom was exhausted by hosting her teen daughter and her friends, and driving them around. She wanted other parents to step up.
Well, my own parents never stepped up. Fortunately, I had a friend whose parents were fun and lively, and always made time for all of us. They helped give me a happier childhood.
-- Grateful
Dear Grateful: Any teen is lucky to live in "that house" -- the house where everyone gathers. Tired Mom is doing a great job.
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