Brother won't fly to Israel, opts for guilt trip, instead
-- Left Out
Dear Left Out: It's time to start showing up. You should accompany your guy to school events, concerts and games -- or other essentially public events. Greet everyone warmly but otherwise keep a discreet and calm distance.
Basically, you will need to demonstrate your presence, and the fact that you are not going away. You cannot force these people to invite you to their home, but your guy should gently encourage them to accept you.
Dear Amy: After 30 years of ministry and caring for couples, my response would have been much shorter than yours to "Over It". My response: Get out.
The response to abusive relationships ought to be simple. The abused needs to leave.
There are plenty of loving women in the world for Over It. He doesn't need to change her because he can't. The logic of counseling this early into a relationship before marriage is a huge indicator that this match was made in h--l, not heaven.
-- Fr. K.
Dear Fr. K: Thank you for your insight.
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