In-law wants to protect her investment with engaged couple
When you decide to tell your children, it's OK to say, "I'm not sure what's going on. I'm confused and upset. This wasn't my choice." What you shouldn't do is confide unproven allegations, ask them to communicate to their father for you or ask them to prove their loyalty to one parent over the other.
You should reassure the child getting married that you and their father will keep the focus on their marriage, not yours, on their big day.
Dear Amy: I was disgusted by your PC answer to the letter from "Colleague," who said he wanted to wear a traditional Indian ceremonial shirt to the office for Halloween.
Halloween is a fun day when people dress in costumes. This day, along with so many others, is being ruined by people like you.
Dear Disgusted: Halloween is a day when children dress up and go door to door, begging for candy. If you want to dress up in a ceremonial costume at the office, then pick one from your own culture. Otherwise, grow up.
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