Halloween in the office shouldn't offend others
-- Sad in Suburbia
Dear Sad: Your father immediately apologized for not attending this brunch and seeing you receive your recognition, but you have taken what seems like a sincere apology and are now doubling down on your blame.
Your parents would have had to pay $200 to attend this brunch. I believe that for some people who are not accustomed to the way these things work, $200 would seem like an exorbitant amount that they would have a hard time justifying -- even if they could afford it. And it would be difficult to ask the honoree to pay for her own guests.
Regardless of the circumstances, they messed up and have apologized for it. You'll feel better if you accept their apology.
Dear Amy: I couldn't believe your heartless answer to "Friends Until Kids." The question concerned a couple who couldn't have children, who announced that they didn't want to be friends with people who did have children.
Your analogy of being childless to losing elderly parents is wrong. You obviously don't know what you're talking about.
-- Disgusted Reader
Dear Disgusted: My analogy was meant to compare one heartbreaking life-loss to another. Mature adults, I said, need to learn not to blame other people for their own unfortunate circumstances, and the resultant sadness.
(You can contact Amy Dickinson via email: firstname.lastname@example.org. Readers may send postal mail to Amy Dickinson, c/o Tribune Content Agency, 16650 Westgrove Drive, Suite 175, Addison, Texas, 75001. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or "like" her on Facebook.)