Grandparents' claims don't match reality
-- Concerned Father
Dear Father: You should have the wedding you want to have (and so should your daughter).
However, while I don't usually advocate for the tail wagging the dog, given how many adult children don't welcome a parent's second spouse into their lives, perhaps you should be honored by their enthusiasm. Maybe you could plan a small ceremony and brunch in your home with children and spouses, and then catch your flight to Hawaii for your honeymoon.
Dear Amy: "Lucky Sibling" wanted to give their siblings cash gifts. Your response: "When you give, you also have to let go," reminded me of a favorite quote from Dr. SunWolf:
"The paradox of gifts: I know what I have given you. I do not know what you have received."
Dear Gifted: Very wise.
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