Rings come with warrantees; friendship doesn't
Dear Amy: A very dear friend of mine has agreed to marry what she "believes" is the man of her dreams.
She is a 31-year-old Christian woman who has lived in a small community all her life. She and the man she has chosen to settle with dated for only a year prior to him "popping' the question.
He lives an hour and a half away in the city. The only time they see each other is every other weekend, plus some time with their families during the holidays. They have spent a lot of time sending text messages to each other during the course of their relationship.
At first I thought he seemed like a nice, well-rounded guy. But I also felt as though something was "off." Initially, I thought it appeared he was "forcing" his way into my friend's life.
Recently, I ran into her fiance in the jewelry store -- the store where he purchased her engagement ring. I observed his behavior. He was frustrated and somewhat irate when speaking with the customer service representative. What shocked me the most was when he commented on purchasing the warranty for a $300 ring. He made a cheeky comment to the clerk: "I guess you get what you pay for."
When he saw me, he told me he was having the ring "repaired" because the stone kept falling out.
My friend would be devastated if she found out how truly frugal this man is, and how little he spent on her engagement ring.
I am torn as to what to do. Their wedding date is approaching and I don't know if I should be sharing this encounter with her.
Either way, I will be heartbroken. It will be hard to let her marry a man who is claiming to be something he's not. But I don't know how she would take hearing this bad news from me.
All I want is for her to be happy.