Woman upsets her mother by getting birth control
Dear Amy: I am a 24-year-old college graduate living at home to save money for a place of my own.
I have been dating "Martin" for almost a year. We love each other and have talked about our future (i.e., marriage).
After a lot of discussion and research, we decided that it was appropriate to look into long-term birth control. About a month ago, I had my appointment at the clinic, and everything went well.
Until last night. Yesterday my mother received the notice from the health insurance company notifying her of my clinic visit, because I am on her health coverage.
While I stand by my decision to be proactive and responsible, she is struggling with it and with how she found out.
She is very conservative in her views on premarital sex, and feels incredibly hurt that I did not tell her about it ahead of time.
We have always been very close, so I understand her hurt. I honestly wrestled with talking with her about this, but at the same time, it was a choice regarding my body and my relationship.
I offered to pay for it, but she said that the damage has already been done.
Can you give your opinion? How much is a parent entitled to know about their adult child's intimate life?
Is there anything I could have done/can do to help the situation?
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