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Dear Weary: I'm sorry your job is boring ... but at least the pay is low, right?
You could approach this along two tracks. One is to take the financial pressure off by weaning your adult children from your financial support. Remember that it's OK for them to struggle. You shouldn't continue to shoulder their rightful adult burdens.
Secondly, you should see if you can transfer within your company to a job that might be more stimulating and commensurate with your skill set. This wouldn't involve a lengthy external job search, and would notify your employers that you are eager for more stimulating work.
Also, pursue efforts outside of your job which would be stimulating and useful. You might explore becoming a volunteer legal adviser for children in the foster care system, for instance. This experience could be a game changer for you.
Dear Amy: I'd like to applaud your answer to "Wondering Mom," who asked how much detail she should give her daughter about alleged hostile behavior she experienced from the child's father.
I left my now ex-husband due to domestic violence, taking my daughter (who was a toddler at the time) with me.
As the years have passed and she asks why we don't all spend time together, as tempting as it has occasionally been to throw him under the bus, my scripted answer is that everyone is happier and better off when Daddy and I don't spend time together ... and I reinforce that we both love her.
-- Happily Apart
Dear Apart: Great answer. Thank you.
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